You’ve got a friend in me.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the nature of friendship recently. There have been a few minor crises happening around me and I have been struck by how supportive and caring my friends have been. These people have been there for me whenever things have been black; they have shared my joys and successes, hugged me when I’ve been sad and given me a kick up the backside when I’ve been lazy and silly.  And for the most part, I’ve never met them or even spoken to them on the telephone. Ten years ago, perhaps even five, I would never have believed I could feel so close, so ‘connected’, to people I’ve never met. When I was a child, a friend was someone you went out to play and shared your sweets with. Today, thanks to a society where people are isolated by the ‘me’...

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Me? Silent? Make me!

This whole “Twitter Silence” thing is making me very cross today. With typical Weegie contrariness, if someone tells me not to do something, my response is “oh, you fucking think so?” and, to be honest, I could see it all far enough. I’m going through a down period. My depression is back, I have upped the medication and am doing my best to crawl out of this pit of misery. When I am in pain of any sort – physical or emotional – my coping mechanism is to be quiet, hold all the hurt inside and squeeze it until it collapses in on itself. It always does. It just takes time. Which is why I am pissed in extremis at being forced to break my silence by the trolls of the interwebz who think it’s OK to abuse people, regardless of their gender, and then have a...

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#WhatWouldKevinBaconDo

This post starts with a dream, but it gets better so please say with me. Last night I dreamed that my mum needed a new kettle. We went to an electrical appliance shop where she fell in love with a stove-top kettle. Having an electric hob, I tried to explain to her that not only would it take far too long to come to the boil, it would probable be expensive to run. At this point the sales lady butted in that it wasn’t as bad as you think because if you bought this particular appliance, you could get any other appliance worth £36 free. In the real world it’s a full-time job explaining to my mum that “one for £10, two for £16” type offers aren’t a bargain if you don’t need two – you’re just spending another £6 for...

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The Black Dog and the Virtual World

I have written this additional blog post about depression and the power of social media as part of Sane’s Virtual Black Dog campaign. I have had depression off and on for most of my life. It wasn’t diagnosed until just after my daughter was born, 17 years ago, but the symptoms were there long before that. Until recently, it’s something I kept quiet about. While I wasn’t quite ‘ashamed’ of my illness, I certainly didn’t go around talking about it. After all, I’d seen how mental illness was treated on television, in the movies, by my neighbours… To admit to mental illness was to admit to madness and to invite the status of social pariah upon oneself. You’d almost think it was infectious. By a happy coincidence, just when my depression was at its worst the internet...

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Tweet Treats and A Competition!

[tweetmeme source=”nettiewriter” http://www.URL.com] Last year I was browsing through my twitter feed when I noticed a call for recipes of 140 characters or less from my Twitter Bestie, Jane Travers. When she told me she hoped to collect enough recipes to publish in a book and that proceeds would go to Medecins Sans Frontieres, I felt a challenge brewing. I’m not known for my brevity. My current tweet counter sits at over 45,000 and many of my ‘pronouncements’ take more than one tweet, so trying to condense an entire recipe into just 140 characters – less if you included the #TweetTreats hashtag – was a massive challenge. But I had a go and found there were a few I managed to cut down. Soon it became addictive and I was rummaging through...

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