Santa and Sexism

I am proud to publish here a piece my 17 year old daughter, Claire Thomson, wrote in response to an experience of everyday sexism.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALast week, I was at a party in a rural community hall. Around fifty alcohol soaked under twenties bounced off walls plastered with posters advertising salsa for the over 60s, French for the fearful and Christmas fayres.

The night was drawing to a close and I, clinging to my boyfriend, was awaiting my carriage home. As we argued about the quality of The Hobbit and its arguably soul destroying length, a friend of his approached. He staggered over, dressed as Santa, laden with premature Christmas gifts of beer.

“Beer?” He offered my boyfriend. Upon his refusal of said beverage, I stood patiently, awaiting what, to me at least, seemed to be the only polite progression this exchange could make. But, no. I must have behaved appallingly all year as Santa stumbled past me, and then my best friend without so much as a smile. Santa proceeded to offer the same beer to my best friend’s boyfriend.

“Beer?” My best friend and I exchanged glances. Did we not exist? Were we too little to even be seen by Old St Nic? On this occasion, I allowed my principles to override my perhaps unwarranted height complex, and all 5”6 of me, challenged Santa.

“But you didn’t offer me a beer.” I protested.

Santa appeared shocked and confused: I can’t be expecting presents if I speak to him like that. To make my point clearer and aid the poor man’s confusion, I elaborated.

“You offered the guys one, but not the girls. Is that a coincidence, or do I see a pattern?”

“Well, erm, I just don’t think it looks right for a girl to drink beer.” At this, my boyfriend winced, half because of his own principles, and half of his awareness of the imminent onslaught.

This disturbed me hugely. Santa, in such a position of power as to decide who is placed on the naughty and nice lists, is now including choice of alcoholic beverage with gender as a criteria. It was common knowledge that breast size, heel height, skirt length, intellect, ambition and the audacity to speak one’s mind were already taken into consideration, but this too?

Santa and I conversed for a few minutes. I asked some questions and Santa responded rather monosyllabically.

“Do you want a beer?” he eventually asked.

“No, thank you. I don’t like it.”

My carriage arrived and my friends and I piled in. On the way home, I had a hard think about what it was I really wanted from Santa this year. Not Budweiser, nor Kronenbourg, not Tennents, nor Guinness, not even gin, nor wine, nor raspberry bellini. What I’d really love this year, is equality. For as long as what I drink is assumed to be determined by my sex, that’s still a long way off.

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19 Comments

  1. Bridget
    Dec 29, 2012

    Happy equal New Year x

  2. mkconlon
    Dec 29, 2012

    Brilliant piece of writing! Full equality has a long way to go but we live in hope!

    • Claire Thomson
      Dec 30, 2012

      Thank you, that’s very lovely of you 🙂 x

  3. Margot Kinberg
    Dec 29, 2012

    What a powerful post, Claire! It’s heartbreaking too to think that we are still dealing with this decades after your mother and I and other women in our generation had to fight the same fight. Good on you to do the right thing and point it out! I know your mum’s proud and I am too. I wish you happy (and less unfair!) 2-13.

    • Claire
      Dec 30, 2012

      Thank you, Margot. That’s very sweet of you and I hope your 2013 is lovely 🙂

  4. joskehan
    Dec 30, 2012

    Ah your daughter has the same mind set as I do, Nettie…..really enjoyed this blog. Big hugs to Claire. xxx

    • Claire
      Dec 30, 2012

      Thank you :), *hugs back*

  5. Mandy
    Dec 30, 2012

    We have a long way to go. But as long as there are young women like you around who are prepared to challenge sexism and question such acts head on, we will be in a better position to overcome it. It truly warms my heart that you challenged Santa in this way. Hopefully other females around listening to your conversation learned a little too! Happy New Year, Claire x

  6. glynissmy1
    Dec 30, 2012

    A wonderfully expressed piece, Claire! For me, it is not a case of equality but pure manners and consideration for me as a human being. Here in Cyprus, I am often ignored by the men when a conversation occurs. The fact I am the one who has to respond in Greek for my husband is still not given the respect it deserves. Alpha males are being challenged by their women though, and I smile when I see them scuttle away with a tongue lashing. Sadly, ‘manners maketh man’, must be a rewritten into ‘manners maketh woman, and she shall teach man’. Happy New Year to you all. x

  7. Carol
    Dec 30, 2012

    Really glad you challenged him!! Fab piece of writing!
    C x

  8. Chris Mills
    Dec 30, 2012

    It could have ben worse – he could have offered you a Babycham instead! Good post.

  9. Abi Burlingham
    Dec 30, 2012

    What a lovely piece of writing, Claire. I think I might have accidentally tripped and pulled Santa’s beard off for his oversight 😉

  10. Carolyn Hughes
    Dec 30, 2012

    Unfortunately there are a lot of ‘Santa’s’ in this world. Enjoyed your writing Claire 🙂

  11. Carolyn Hughes
    Dec 30, 2012

    Unfortunately there are a lot of ‘Santa’s’ in this world. Enjoyed your writing Claire 🙂

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