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This is one of my ranty posts, so I hope you are sitting comfortably with a nice cup of tea.

What’s with all the “real women” nonsense in the media just now? Seriously, I’d like to know because it’s making me incredibly angry and I’m sure there are worthier causes out there to get my dander up about.

In the past few weeks I’ve seen work by photographers using “real women” in their scanties, “real women” instagramming their stretch marks, advertisers using “real women” to sell soap and deodorant, and Kim Kardashian. Ladies, we’ve now officially been given permission not to be perfect. What a relief. I don’t know about you, but as a big wummin I’ve been feeling an imposter to my sex for years.

Not.

The media is now patting us on our collective lardy arses and telling us that we’re OK really and that our money is just as good as that of the Real Women (those without quotation marks). Unless, of course, you want to buy more than a handbag from the Gap. I can’t help getting the feeling that I’m being humoured like an elderly aunt who still thinks the war is on.

Know what else gets to me? Posts of Facebook showing thin runway models next to Marilyn Monroe, telling me that the skinny bitches aren’t sexy. And these posts are invariably by other women. Woohoo for sisterhood, girls.

For as long as we make a point about allowing larger women to be “real,” for as long as we criticise thin women for being unrealistic, for as long as we believe the crap fed to us by the media on a daily basis, we will never truly be freed from the tyranny of size. It’s one of the big areas that feminism has yet to tackle successfully. I would love to get to a time when I could differentiate between two women by saying “the fat one” or “the thin one” without it being interpreted as a judgement.

Ladies, our elderly aunt is correct: there IS a war still going on and I for one implore each and every one of you to take arms against the incessant infatuation with equating size with worth.

I’m a real woman. You’re a real woman. And so is Kim Kardashian.

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12 Comments

  1. Jane Lovering
    Apr 29, 2015

    I was coming down to the comments to leave a ..well..comment, and my attention was caught by the ad IMMEDIATELY UNDER the blog post ‘Doctors SHOCKED: Manchester mom (yes, mom…) breaks world record, 12kg in 4weeks!!’

    I have to say that, as long as ads like this persist, there will never be an equality for women of all sizes and shapes. Your fabulous post made such a good point, which is then negated by the ad underneath. Yes, we are all Real, whatever size we are, except that the media would like us all to be skinny, please, and thinks that’s what we want…

    • Nettie
      Apr 29, 2015

      Ack, apologies for that, Jane. Shareholic updated and defaulted to allowing promoted content. Cheeky buggers! I’ve changed it now, but it might take a while for it to change on my site.

      And thank you x

  2. Jane Lovering
    Apr 29, 2015

    I was coming down to the comments to leave a ..well..comment, and my attention was caught by the ad IMMEDIATELY UNDER the blog post ‘Doctors SHOCKED: Manchester mom (yes, mom…) breaks world record, 12kg in 4weeks!!’

    I have to say that, as long as ads like this persist, there will never be an equality for women of all sizes and shapes. Your fabulous post made such a good point, which is then negated by the ad underneath. Yes, we are all Real, whatever size we are, except that the media would like us all to be skinny, please, and thinks that’s what we want…

    • Nettie
      Apr 29, 2015

      Ack, apologies for that, Jane. Shareholic updated and defaulted to allowing promoted content. Cheeky buggers! I’ve changed it now, but it might take a while for it to change on my site.

      And thank you x

  3. Jane Lovering
    Apr 29, 2015

    PS, I don’t actually mean your blog post was negated, it obviously still makes the excellent point, but the ad tries to gainsay your point straight away! Bloody ads.

  4. Jane Lovering
    Apr 29, 2015

    PS, I don’t actually mean your blog post was negated, it obviously still makes the excellent point, but the ad tries to gainsay your point straight away! Bloody ads.

  5. Margot Kinberg
    Apr 29, 2015

    I couldn’t agree more, Nettie! As long as the media (and for the matter of that, people who are broadcast on said media) put women into categories based on size, or equate femininity with size, the point is still lost. We are all women. Size really doesn’t matter. Or, rather, it’s part of what makes each of us individuals. Any time you use labels like that, you’re implying a value judgement.

  6. Margot Kinberg
    Apr 29, 2015

    I couldn’t agree more, Nettie! As long as the media (and for the matter of that, people who are broadcast on said media) put women into categories based on size, or equate femininity with size, the point is still lost. We are all women. Size really doesn’t matter. Or, rather, it’s part of what makes each of us individuals. Any time you use labels like that, you’re implying a value judgement.

  7. Jim Hannah
    Apr 30, 2015

    Kim Kardashian is real? That’s stretching it a bit…

  8. Jim Hannah
    Apr 30, 2015

    Kim Kardashian is real? That’s stretching it a bit…

  9. Di Horsfield
    Apr 30, 2015

    Very eloquently put! Drives me mad. Thank you for putting it so well xx

  10. Di Horsfield
    Apr 30, 2015

    Very eloquently put! Drives me mad. Thank you for putting it so well xx

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