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Sticks and Stones Part 2

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Wee me.

I’m writing this to respond to the many comments left on my previous blog post about bullying.

Firstly, please don’t feel sorry for me. What happened happened. It was years ago and I try to live each day of my life waving a two fingered salute to the past. I am what I am today because of what happened yesterday, and who is to say I’d be any happier/more confident/different if it had been otherwise? Yes, writing it down did bring a tear to my eye, but I was able to wipe it away and say ‘sod the lot of them’. I am a strong and buckery person. If everyone else is going down the right fork in the road, I have to take the left. Can’t stand a crowd. Anyhoo, it’s all done and dusted.

I am very aware, however, that it wasn’t necessarily so for everyone else who went through similar experiences. We each react differently and my contrariness was my blessing. I am furious that people – adults or kids – feel it’s OK to treat anyone this way. How very effing dare they.

I find it interesting that so many ‘creative’ types went through similar experiences. I am not sure if the creativity made us ‘different’ and, therefore, a target or whether it was the violence that made us turn inwards and create the imaginary worlds we still inhabit today. Someone has probably done a study. Personally, I think it was a little bit of both.

Each comment on Sticks and Stones both touched and angered me. I thank you all for your bravery and candour in retelling your stories. I am very, very sorry you could so personally relate to my own story and hope that by sharing, it makes it a little easier for you to move on from it. Perhaps we should get together and put our stories together in a way that might help other people, each of whom was the bullied child.

If anyone was affected by my post and was bullied themselves as a child, I am happy to listen to you if you feel that it would help to talk to someone who went through it. Just drop me an email. If you don’t know my addy, use the Contact Me form.

If anyone is being bullied now, please talk to someone about it. Do it today. If there is no one in your life you feel would be able to help you, look at There are many ways a counsellor there could help you. You are better than your bullies and do not need to put up with it any longer.

I am truly blessed to know such a talented and kind group of people.
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Writer, photographer, creative fantasist.

6 thoughts on “Sticks and Stones Part 2

  1. What a lovely follow up to your post, Nettie. I’m not sure about the answer to the ‘which came first’ either. Personally, I was bullied because I was different and being bullied just made me more different. And long live being different. Lots of love to you and anyone who has been or is going through this experience xx

  2. What a great follow up to your original story. I wish I was as gutsy as you in my youth but I let it get to me. Your story is inspirational

  3. I think I already loved my imaginary worlds and maybe that’s why it was such a comfort to be able to escape to safety without any real effort other than finding somewhere quiet to read in a house with five other children.

    It’s a very thoughtful follow up, I can see why you felt the need to respond to the comments from the first post.

    Thanks Nettie

  4. I am heartened by your story, Nettie, it should give anyone in the same position hope and strength. My son has suffered sonewhat for very similar reasons and I find it has helped his confidence enormously that he now has a different circle of friends outside of school who share his interests. But his second level education begins in September and I know there are challenging times ahead. All I can do is help him to arm himself for the years ahead and keep a careful eye on things, wish me luck!

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